Jul 14, 2014

A couple weeks ago I received the latest issue of Kinfolk as a birthday present. 

Turn the magazine over to the back and you find a tiny paragraph that says this:

"As some anonymous old chap once said, "Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind,
it doesn't matter." This edition of Kinfolk ----The Aged Issue --- Is dedicated to all things that get better with time: loved ones, food, family traditions and a good bottle of wine. We explore how the older folks in our lives can teach us how to live more fully and how to embrace each new candle on our cake with style and grace."

I don't know about you, but I could talk endlessly about all the things I love about getting older. Did I ever tell you how much I look forward to being in my 50's?? No? Well I do! Every time I've gone to a wedding dinner and the Mother or Father of the bride gets up to make a toast... I get chills, I do! [and I always cry] and then I envision myself giving my own toast at me and Jesse's son or daughter's wedding.  I often imagine Jesse and I owning a cabin that we share with our kids and their spouses and little ones, gathering there often and having it be like scenes from one of my favorite movies "Dan in Real Life".   I know what kind of clothes I will be wearing, what the furniture and decor will look like, Jesse just keeps getting better looking with age, so I'll definitely be crushing on him even more!  AND I can't wait to be a Grandma! Oh my... and i'm not even a Mom yet! Yes... silly, I know... i'm constantly having to remind myself to enjoy the present! "Roxy, enjoy today you FOOL!"

Don't you think though that there is just something life altering about being in your 50's? It's almost as if you've mastered everything you had worked so hard on during your 20's, 30's & 40's. You've become this master, and now you can sit back, relax and teach those around you. You no longer doubt, or fuss, you're at peace.

This issue of Kinfolk definitely isn't helping with the "stay present" issue that I have going on, but it is so inspiring and lovely to look through and day dream of getting older, and doing it well, that I will allow myself today and tomorrow, some future reminiscing.

& another thing. Going all gray... so classy!

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One of the things that I think helps with growing older gracefully is knowing yourself, your style and staying true to that regardless of the current trends. It's easy to get sucked into what's popular, and change your style a gazillion times just so you fit in. This was something I saw a lot of while studying fashion in NYC. After our Holiday break, so many students would come back and everything about them had changed drastically... pretty much over night. Classmates would be super GQ sleek one moment and then next semester - all white and minimal...perhaps they went on tour with Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros?... and then after that new trend was the outdoorsy hipster who loves all things Pendleton. What did they do with all their clothes? It's pretty entertaining to see these types of transitions. Those who change so quickly, I actually feel bad for. I just want to say out loud "TRUST YOURSELF, your style that you secretly love will eventually come around, I promise" ... have you noticed this within home decor as well? lol...oh man, it's the same thing.  

Okay... what's my point? My point is this... being confident and okay with yourself has long term benefits. 

Here are just a few that I found from Practical Self Help 

The three points are from their list, 10 Benefits of Having High Self Esteem

1. You are more resilient to life's difficulties because you are less likely to give in to despair or defeat.

2. You will enjoy a fuller social life. When you feel good about yourself, you don't hesitate to talk to new people. Each new person you talk to is a potential new friend, business partner, customer, or romantic interest.  This is so true. And it makes me think of people I know [and hopefully myself, yeah...gonna be honest there!] that don't seek after friendships that look and dress like ourselves.  Don't you think it's weird when you see a group of adults and they ALL look the same? I find it uncomforably interesting. It's basically curated friendships in my opinion, rarely leaving room for others who don't dress like you but ultimately could be some of your closest friends.  This is what I call missed opportunities! 

3. Fortune favors the bold. When you feel confident in yourself, you are willing to take more risks because you know that you can deal with whatever comes your way. People who are willing to take more risks end up being more successful in life. 

Now, with all that said. It's inevitable that our style and tastes are going to change over time, especially in our tweens, teens and twenties... but yo-yoing back and forth, says more than just "yeah, my style has changed" it's saying [at least to me] that there is something inside you that you're not okay with... which ultimately is emotionally exhausting. 

What is a way to combat this? Well, to those of you who want to start the process of aging gracefully a lot sooner - here is what I suggest.  Put your blinders on. Take tares out of magazines of fashions that you are drawn to, and not what the media is telling you to be drawn to. If it happens to be trendy of the moment, cool. But be authentic to yourself. Create a mood-board of these tares or have them in a binder, where you frequently look at.  Creating a pinterest board helps, unless of course you're one of those types who is on there a lot...then I would avoid pinterest [it's a slippery slope folks!] because there is so much consistent overload, it's hard to take in everything and enjoy it. 

I created 19 boards total, and got to a point one day that I was like "okay, enough's enough!" I decided that I needed to keep my pinning to a limit. Now I will occasionally pin 1 or 2 things a month, if that. BUT! I do go to my 3 favorite boards a couple times a week and pour over them and take everything in. As you gather together favorite looks that YOU like, you will start to see a consistent pattern throughout...pay attention to that. Pay attention to the fabric, the color, the hardware that you are drawn to. I absolutely love silk, but my husband hates it. You will never see him in a silk shirt, even if that is the hottest thing in town. That is something I love about Jesse, he is so true to himself.  

So...my very favorite board is appropriately titled "A Simple Wardrobe" which I started back in 2011... this is my inspiration for how I dress and will proceed to dress in the next 5,10, 20+ years. This is my aging gracefully board. Everyone has a different version of that too! Remember that. Simple has so many looks...you've got modern, gothic, bohemian, preppy, sporty simple... just keep it simple and timeless. 

Pictured below is one of my favorite older models! Pia Gronning
she has aged so gracefully don't you think?! 

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Lastly,  our friend Summer Bellesa did a post on Babble the other day called "13 Stylish ways to Rock a Statement Necklace" - our Roxy Marj spotted clutch was featured in this post with her uncomplicated, flattering and timeless look.  I had to share since it goes so well with this blog post I was working on today.  I hope that what I have said makes some sort of sense, even though I've been out of the blogging sphere for sometime does not mean it made my problems with syntax magically disappear... i'm hoping that will just happen over time. Ha! ;-[) 

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Okay, for real lastly! As I was finishing writing that above paragraph I remembered that I wanted to share some of MY favorite all time classic, chic, wardrobe staple movies with you all. Here goes!

There is no order - I love them all EQUALLY

The Family Stone
Annie Hall
Sabrina [both versions]
Hanging Up
Out of Africa
Funny Face
Bonny & Clyde
Coco Before Chanel 
When Harry Met Sally
You've Got Mail
Love Story
The Women [both versions]
 Joe Versus the Volcano
Paper Moon
Falling in Love

Jul 8, 2014

I want to introduce you all to my assistant Tracie Atkinson, she will be posting on here as well. :-[)

Tracie and I live in the same neighborhood and we go to church together, and work together. Yes, we are joined at the hip! Luckily we are close in height so it's not an issue... ha! ;-[p Tracie has been working for me since February and in that short amount of time she has already helped me with sooo much! I'm not the most organized person [working on that] so I knew that whoever I would hire to assist me needed to be REALLY organized, way waay more than myself. I've learned so much from Tracie already and getting to work with her I have also learned a lot about myself and what I can do to be a better employer! Which is always a great thing. 

Some of my observations on Tracie :

- has a very strong work ethic
- has a great sense of humor
- the 4 year olds in her primary church class LOVE her :-[) 
- she likes thrifting and going to garage sales [she always scores something awesome] 
- her apt. she and her husband live in reminds me of being in a Kate Spade showroom! 
- she is a darling aunt to her nieces and nephews 
- she has good energy ...which is so important! 
- lastly, she LITERALLY is thee best April Fool's pranker ever! 

Here is my proof: 

This past April Fools she brought a life sized child doll to our house and placed it in the kitchen like so, I screamed so loud and almost peed my pants when going in to make lunch. THAT was just one of the handful of pranks that day. YEAH! pretty awesome! :-[) Harley isn't amused! lol well, more like confused.

sooo ....without further adieu  

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Today I want to feature a shop, which is Little Sapling Toys! They are located here in Utah and I'm totally obsessed with their products! I have bought baby tethers from them as gifts for my nieces, nephews and friends, and I LOVE them. I usually buy the babies the teether for the state that they were born in. The babies love them and the parents REALLY love them. I love the simple design and coloring, plus you can customize them with a name-- who doesn't love a custom gift?

Jul 7, 2014

My Birthday was a couple days ago, and... well...I turned 33! 

The present I gave to myself this year was to get back on the blog bandwagon, which by the way SHOULD be the name of a newspaper... just saying. Okay, so my gift is blogging... err..journaling, and I plan on being consistent [yes, you can count on some good reading/visual material from now on] as well as some heavy smothering to you all, or anyone interested with slow jams, fast james, SMOOOTH jams... all of the above, except for bagpipe music. You won't find that here.  Annnyways, with all that said, I have a present for YOU!  

I put together 33 of my favorite songs that I jammed, cried, danced, worked, and sweated to during my tweens, teens, and adulthood on up...  One of the songs however was not on my younger self's playlist - George Harrison's "I've Got My Mind Set on You" - I was reminded of this awesome song this morning by a fellow instagrammer @ashleymerry, and had to add it...plus it fits in well with the genre! 

Thank you Ashley for the reminder! :-[) 

Okay, well that's it for today - see you folks back here tomorrow! 


Roxy Marj 

- magazine spread from March 2014 MILK Magazine - 

credits below

photos: Karel Balas/ Style & Texts: Helene Lahalle
Beauty & Make-up: Bruno Le Roux/ Assistant Photographer: Claire Israel
Style Assistant: Helene Redolfi

May 9, 2014

With Mothers Day approaching soon, I wanted to create something special to give away to you all.

I made 4 different colored 8.5 x 11" prints for anyone in need of a Mother's Day gift.  I hope they come in handy.... they are free for the taking. Feel free to share them on your blog, instagram, facebook etc.  if you do, please give credit. :) 

My inspiration for this illustration: 

I think most every woman on this planet would agree that the book and movie Little Women is indeed hands down a classic story that is loved by all!

Louisa May Alcott is someone I would have FOR SURE wanted to be friends with in the late 1800's. I think it's safe to say that she was probably a woman many people admired... and this is usually the thought that comes to mind when Mother's Day approaches. It's about honoring your moms and all the things you admire about her. To add to that, if you are someone who wasn't raised by your mom or didn't/doesn't necessarily have the best relationship with your mom, but perhaps there was another female figure in your life growing up who made a huge impact on your life [I can name 4!] then why not honor them as well.

I really love this quote by Louisa May Alcott...to me, it epitomizes what I hope to be someday as a mom, someone who is strong and brave and takes life's challenges head on while still maintaining composure and safety throughout the home. Remember Marmee [Mrs. March] and how she handled all the dramatic events of that time period with such composure and grace? What an example of the kind of mother we should all strive to be like.

Happy Mother's Day soon. xo

click on image - then click on it again with the magnifying glass, then drag to desktop  :)

Dec 28, 2013

Today I am giving away three paintings... here is the first :

To win this painting, answer these two questions: 

1. what is the name of the song playing in this video?

2. What is the name of the man with the flowy white scarf in this video?

Dec 27, 2013

I'm behind on my painting giveaways...but I plan on catching up! :-[) 

Today's painting that is up for grabs is this fella....

the question:

Name ONE of the movies these photos are from... 
if you can name both.... gosh you're good!!!  First person to answer correctly on my instagram wins! :-[)

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